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GAY CAT AFFECTS. This is very important.
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An Important Internal Memo:
Friends and Enemies: An incomplete list
Enemies:
1: Dainty Evaders-Those who use irony to pretend that they are transcendent. Who laugh at all things remotely earnest, and are never actually excited. People who act as if they are above politics. Those who read books only to say they have read them, and talk with you only to say they have talked with you, but never let words effect them.
2: Professionals- Those who are always developing their life resume. Quirky interns, well put together non-profit staff, and critically engaged bloggers. Those who are only ever seen at the right events, and never the wrong events. Those who are always trying to make things appear smooth and put together.
3: Problem Solvers-Those who know the answer before your story has left your lips. Those who never have problems themselves, who are never messes, but who always seem to have the solution for everyone else. Those who invite you out to coffee to tell you what to do rather than listen to you complain. Those who are your best friend when you pretend everything is alright, but cannot stand to be around you when you just can not get out of bed in the morning. Those who never understand when you want to chain smoke and take pills and stay up all night, and not eat, let alone do it with you.
4: Oppression Reblogers- Those who constantly add “you tell them gurl” comments to blog posts calling out privileged jerks for being privileged jerks, but have no interest or investment in the content of them. Those who wish nothing more that to be part of the community of the righteous. Those who pretend to be pure.
5: Feelers- Those who think that putting “in my experience” or “I feel” in front of any phrase makes it unquestionable.
6: Theorists- Those who pretend that feelings and experience don’t matter, and never speak of their own.
7: Category lovers- Those who never talk about their own hurts directly, but only the identities that they are grounded in.
8: Self-Hating Egotists- Those who never speak of anything but their own hurts, and never what they share with others.
9: Planners- Those who want to plan utopia, and despise the messiness on the way to it.
10: The Always Positive- Those who refuse to take criticism other than personally. Those who are willing to tolerate anyone they see “making an honest effort”, even when that honest effort sucks. Those who are always looking to compromise and find similarity with their enemies.
11: Complexity Apologists-Those who respond to any situation by simply noting its complexity, and the resulting impossibility of action. Those who always end up favoring the continuation of non-events rather than the possibility of the event.
12: Self-Important Petty Criminals- Those who pretend that petty vandalism is anything but a boring pastime and shoplifting from bookstores is anything but a job.
13: Zombies- Those who never want anything but to relive what has already been done.
Friends:
1: Team Mates- Those who always have the hook up, and never make you feel bad for using it. Those who always give as much away for free as possible from their work. Those who leave you exactly what you wanted on your kitchen table and won’t tell where it came from.
2: Careful Speakers- Those who choose words delicately and carefully, not because they want to speak correctly, but because they realize that words can never quite do the trick.
3: The Quiet Ones- Those who are never at the center of things, but always doing something essential to make it happen.
4: Careful Analysts- Those who will always pick apart something slowly and very carefully. Those will talk with you the whole walk home about why an event felt strange, and will buy you a beer at the corner store so you have an excuse to keep talking when you get home.
5: Blind Rage- Those who refuse to even engage seriously with enemies, and instead madly reach out to get at them in any way possible. Those who punch jerks for “no reason”, and write hateful personal polemics.
6: Open Arms- Those who are always ready to take you in. Those who bring you coffee in bed. Those who pick flowers for you on the way home. Those who cook you dinner for no reason.
7: Always Ready- Those who you see everywhere. Those who are never consistent. Those who know everybody, but mostly uncool people. Those who detest all scenes but are happy to take in the scene. Those who are unconcerned about the purity of their image. Those who shrug their shoulder and say “Ok, why not.”
8: Failures- Those who exciting projects almost always fail. Those who have absolutely no interest in their resume. Those who are always giving difficult things a shot.
9: Omnivores- Those who know a little bit about everything and always want to learn more.
10: Closet Nerds- Those who are unexpected treasure troves of information on particular subjects. Those who can name every plant in the forest or quote books from memory, but never shove it in your face.
11: Welcomers- People who always try to make new people feel comfortable. People who will go out of their way to say hello when you move to town. People who will show you all of their favorite things.
12: Slackers- Those who you feel just fine lazing about with, and never feel guilty about it after.
13: Kitchen Tablers- Those who never go to meetings but will stay up making plans at the kitchen table until 5 a.m.
14: Willing Interpreters- People who take you seriously with out trying to get anything from you. People who put energy into deciphering you, and will listen intently to what you have to say. People who will read books that you like just becasue you like them, and then tell you honestly what they thought of them.
15: Unexpected Loves- Those who are willing to maintain close relationships for reasons that are unclear, and let affects develop their full intensity rather than pulling back.
16: Messes- Those who are always falling apart and never can get their shit together. Those who call you drunk at 7 am to pick them up across town, but never manipulate you into doing it. Those who will shut themselves in with you for a weekend and get fucked up and let all of the intensity come out. Those who start a fight when there doesn’t really need to be one. Those who don’t give a fuck, but manage to be very tender.
Untitled- Bruno Schulz
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"A third way…a way where we would no longer be reduced. No longer cut in half. A way that would allow us to be weak and strong, emotional and rational, vunerable and daring"
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Against Sex Positivity: The Long Awaited Second Draft
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[it’s finally done! done-ish, anyways. i’m kind of convinced it sucks, and the language needs tuning up in a lot of places. the first line, for example, is definitely going to have to change. but i’d say all the pieces are in place so here you go. btw: long post is loooooong. as hell.
basic outline (the sections aren’t actually named but this should give yall a sense of what they are):
I: introduction
II: Feminism, Sex Positivity, and the Self
III: Against the Natural//The Metaphysics of Sex
IV: Sex and the Value Form
V: On Rape
VI: Celibacy
Postscript: On the Body Positive]
